I feel obligated to say as well that if you were like I was before I had a baby, don't think you need to do a total 180 on your idealism. You might end up with a baby who never cries, is happy to be in anyone's arms, will happily drink from a bottle as well as your boob even though they're exclusively breast milk-fed and loves their sleep.
The weaning process started for us when my little girl turned 5 months. I started with tablespoon quantities of apple puree and the occasional mashed banana. Both went down well the first couple of days and then it was all just a big game of hit and miss!
I waited till I was 5 months before sharing. For one, I wanted to make sure I made it through my first trimester before breaking the news, which doctors suggest.
Those are types of things I heard in the first few months after I gave birth that made me think really hard about what I might have been doing wrong. I never once considered the possibility that my child would be any but calm and peaceful.
I do believe there's a nurture vs nature issue here because as they grow older, babies are able to learn how to manage their emotions better and that could lead to them having more balanced emotions. According to research, though, it all starts during pregnancy.
We want it all. In fact, some of us are encouraged to go for it all. Why not aim high? Aim for the husband, the babies and the top position in that company and all before you're 35. There are women out there doing it. Why can't you?