How to work from home with your spouse in the house…and not kill them (11 Tips)

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You won’t be alone right now if you’re wondering how to survive working from home with your spouse. Working from home with others is never straightforward but perhaps more so when they’re your partner and children. Here are some tips for couples working from home.

Designate a specific space in the house for yourself and your work

Couples working from home together need to create their separate work spaces. Even if it’s only half a room, no one else should be allowed there but you. Yes. Not even your spouse. Practice some spousal distancing.

Alternate spaces

If you’ve got enough room and rooms in your home, changing your work space every week or so will provide that refreshing feeling you need that’s so hard to get after working from home for a prolonged period.

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Don’t attempt to ignore them

It just won’t work and you’ll pay for it later. It might not be today or tomorrow, but you will.

Cover your ears

Whether it’s headphones or earbuds, get some good ones that will effectively drown out the outside world. Play some music that will focus you rather than distract you. Or listen to some chilled podcasts that you don’t necessarily have to pay too much attention to.

Give yourself deadlines to hit throughout the day

This is to ensure that you really are getting work done throughout the day and not looking for excuses to lie around cuddling with your spouse all day.

Alternate responsibilities

Household responsibilities will no doubt crop out throughout the work day. It could be anything from dirty dishes to overflowing bins. There’ll be something that can’t wait till 5pm. Even more likely if you’ve got children. Decide who is working today on making lunch for the family and who is taking on the task of taking out the bins tonight. Alternate these tasks. Make your spouse feel supported while you’re “at work”.

Take your lunch break alone

This is exercising your work simulation muscles and gives you some breathing space mid-work to do other things that you wouldn’t normally get the chance to do if you were at your workplace.

Schedule a work related call or two each day

This is a great way to indirectly get your colleagues and/boss to hold you accountable for work that you’ve said you’ll do.

Let your spouse know if and when you have scheduled meetings.

This will make them conscious of the times that you will be occupied speaking to someone else and they’ll know they absolutely can’t bother you at those times.

Get your partner involved

If you have no children and your spouse is not working, get him or her to support your work day by assigning them one task that they can do to help you out. That’s if they’re up for that, of course. Something they don’t need expert knowledge to do. It’s also a good way to get them to understand your job better than they already do.

Make your spouse your closing time alarm

This may be the hardest for some to achieve. It can be tough for a lot of people to finish work when they should. Especially when they work from home. There’s the temptation to try to get a lot more done in the extra time that you’d normally use to make your way back home. Don’t do it. Think of your spouse as your sweet end of day treat and shut that laptop down at end o’clock. Not a moment later. They might even enjoy it if you ask them to pull you away from the screen at the end of the working day!

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  1. jawaria

    wow need this post in these quarantine days 🙂 thanks

  2. Salmeen

    We live in a small studio and now as my husband is working from home it’s quite difficult for me to have a normal life. But I will definitely try your tips. thanks for such a great post. 😍

  3. Roshini

    This is a good one . 😂 oo it’s hard…

  4. Nicole p

    Omg I totally needed this lol! People are taking about how hard it is to have their kids home and I’m over here like it’s my husband that’s the problem!! LOL

  5. Corinne

    This post made me laugh! I’m lucky to have a husband who just gets that I love being at home. I’ve been working from home sine 2018 so he’s kind of used to it. Now he has to work from home as well, we share the house work during the day and he has his own office at the back of the house so we don’t really run into each other that often. Our current arrangement is key to keeping the peace, I think!

  6. Sloan

    I love this! I’m at home studying and my husband got put on call so this is great advice!

  7. Sha

    Great tips! My spouse is definitely my closing time alarm! 😀

  8. Lucy Reyes

    Hahaha love this! But in my case, my son is the one home and get like I want to cover my ears from him 😂 my fiance has only stayed home once through this and wish I had seen this post sooner lol

  9. Jamie Atterholt

    haha I love this. I totally have to lock my better-half in the bedroom when I have a work Zoom call. But you’re right, using them to call it end of day is super helpful. We never eat lunch together or else we do end up talking for an hour or more and totally distracted…tried that for a week! 😛

  10. Shannon

    These are some great tips! Super helpful to me for mondays when my hubby is home with me! Thanks for putting this together!

  11. Anonymous

    Great tips! Love it lol

  12. Rachel Da silva

    Thanks for sharing this is great! It can hard to work next to your spouse all day!

  13. Carrie Pankratz

    Great tips. It has certainly been a challenge and an adjustment for many.

  14. Kailey Krysh

    Thanks for sharing! Great tips, I worked at home for a little bit during quaratine and my spouse was on furlough so it was definitely hard to get stuff done especially since my office ended up being the family room

  15. hari

    love your tips.
    surely a much needed post since working from home is gonna be the new normal for some time.
    thanks for sharing this valuable post.

  16. Debranetta

    These are great tips. My husband is home AND our 3 kids are virtual learning. It’s been an interesting dynamic to say the least.

  17. Janeane M Davis

    My husband and I have worked at home together for years. It is a great thing if you find a way that make it work for everyone.

  18. Annie

    This was super cute. Thank you for sharing <3 I have the WFH with children more so than the spouse, since he works at his office outside our home. I honestly don't know how people do it when they are both home all day everyday 😉

  19. Sonia Seivwright

    If I had a man, I’ll definitely be needing this. Been on my own for long and I just don’t know how i would cope.

    1. Kin Unplugged

      Getting used to having your own space for so long must indeed make it more difficult in this kind of situation. Thanks so stopping by.

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