This post is contributed anonymously by a friend who has a 4 month old baby. This is her truth about marriage with a newborn.
Having a newborn has been really tough on our relationship, with a tired recovering body and demanding newborn who refused to sleep in her cot for the most part, you tend to feel exhausted for those first three months. Breastfeeding makes you feel like your body is no longer yours and it takes some getting used to.
If you haven’t dragged your other half to antenatal classes or had a serious chat about each others expectations before they arrive, it can be a plethora of disagreements and surprises. Be it dummy no dummy, Co sleeping, breastfeeding versus formula or just who is expected to do the dishes, I had many surprises and ended up arguing a lot with my partner. Then the jealousy kicked in that I wasn’t working despite me feeling exhausted, to him, it seemed like a holiday. I didn’t feel like that at 3am trying to get a baby to sleep.
Can you relate to any of this? Did you experience a relationship breakdown after baby?